Hello. My name is Karen Wells, and I trust you will find help from Karis Counselling Services. I understand that painful past experiences can keep women from moving forward in their lives. Although I may not have experienced your exact story, I have learned that the road to healing is similar for all of us.
I am passionate about encouraging women to fulfill their dreams. If you are letting a tragic story from your past own your present situation, I want to give you HOPE. You can change. Life is too short to be stuck. God has exciting plans for you, yet you may be allowing past hurt, anger, or guilt hold you back. You can be free!
I was feeling worn out, very disappointed in myself, and embarrassed. I mean, here I was, a fairly well-rounded woman, yet being held hostage by the affects of my past experiences. I look back now and wonder how I ever made it. God must have had His hand of grace on me for He put people and positive circumstances in my life, which has been a catalyst that has brought me to where I am today.
The biggest changes came when I started acknowledging that my past experiences had indeed, impacted my life. Before I began to do this, I tended to deal with my pain in three ways… ignore it (by pacifying it with “things that made me feel good”), explode into fits of anger and blaming, or slip into a depression.
It’s not even that I was some “off-the-wall” woman (although I often told myself I was). I mean, I was a mother, a wife, a student, an employee, and yes, a Christian (since 1982). I could run the affairs of my life fairly well, until “boom”, I’d get stuck in my tracks by overwhelming depression, self-hate, anger and despair. I’d somehow manage to “pull myself together” for a while, and then “wammo”; it would reappear in my life. There were times in my life when I even felt suicidal.
Yet, acknowledgement opened the door for me to re-evaluate my reactions and feelings about my life. As it turned out, I eventually found myself attending a seminary, and majoring in marriage and family counselling. It was through my own counselling journey that I experienced freedom! This is one major reason I am certain counselling works… I have been there too! The therapist met up with the therapy!
Since then, I have committed myself to helping women gain freedom from their past pain. I have counselled numerous women who were just like I used to be. I soon recognized that I tended to counsel specific strategies over and over again, and women were being freed! Their story of struggle did not have to be the exact same as mine, yet I discovered that the steps towards healing were almost always the same.
Because of this, I decided it would be beneficial for women to have these strategies laid out for them in a step-by-step formulation so they could work on their issues and struggles. That is why I developed, Unhooked! 7 Steps To Emotional Freedom.